Comment by byearthithatius
Comment by byearthithatius 2 days ago
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Comment by byearthithatius 2 days ago
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It's not particularly complicated. Every government scheme is eventually exploited. In this case, it is that Medicaid pays out well for autism diagnosis and treatment. Once upon a time it was dialysis centers but nephrologists had to keep their patients on bare minimum before eventually referring them to their family's dialysis center. Good business because government covers and it lasts forever.
Autism is even better because you can diagnose it in anyone and the treatment can show whatever results you want. It's a spectrum you see.
I think elder care or in home care in NYC is a similar operation.
The sheer weight of human productivity is unbelievable. You have some two hundred to two fifty million Americans producing things through labour. They're all taxed and it goes into one or two places. Tap that keg and you get unbelievable wealth.
Thanks for saying this. My sister was autistic, like, back in the 90s autistic, and it’s driving me insane to see this game passed off as some well thought out simulation. The scoring algorithm itself tells the story, literally everything is masking. This can be spun as “enlightening” if you’re looking to be educated, but it’s just not.
It’s not about having different triggers and issues, so much as flattening autism to being indistinguishable from, say, a depression simulator.
It's literally in the name: Autism Spectrum Disorder.
You experience autistic traits, but not intensely enough to be a disorder? Congratulations, you can leave the word "disorder" out when you describe yourself.
Everyone masks, but some people mask so often and so intensely that it's like performing a second life; all while hoping your audience doesn't notice. Also, it physically hurts to do, because the interactions you are performing overstimulate your brain.
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I'm assuming you are an adult. Would you like to make social room for someone to be themselves around you instead of perform the role of "functional adult"? If you don't want to make that accommodation, is it something that you are willing to do anyway?
Making "social room" is incredibly broad. I am fine with someone wearing what they want, speaking in a manner they desire, or stepping away if they are stressed. But I won't accept anything.
It all depends on how large the accommodation is. What if they say my talking overstimulates them and I must write everything down. Also the stress from masking is too much so we can only work together 30 minutes a day. In that case no, I would need to work with someone else. Not because I dislike them, but because we are not getting a project done that way.
> What if they say my talking overstimulates them and I must write everything down.
The goal is to resolve the problem, not to bow to every person's whim. How many accommodations are they making for you that you are unaware of?
You can't be responsible to manage a person's disorder. You can, however, actively try to help. The most important distinction here is how you frame your participation.
One of the best ways to help is to explicitly say that you want to help and compromise, but have clear boundaries you are unwilling to cross. The default assumption, that you are unwilling to help simply because you find it inconvenient to do so, is usually accurate. It takes effort to disprove that assumption, but that proof can relieve a lot of stress.
What you have done in the comment I responded to, has had quite the opposite effect. I understand it wasn't likely your intention, but your communication implied that you are generally unwilling to make an accommodation until you personally believe it is necessary. That implication is an insurmountable boundary that every ADHD/ASD person is intimately familiar with. You are the only one in a position to move that boundary.
It definitely feels like it.
It has lost meaning for me as a normie. It’s the same thing with the word “depressed” .
When I was in school in the ‘90s hardly anyone identified as such. These days, when I talk to my kid, and she tells me that so many people claim to be on the spectrum even though they seem ordinary.
It’s hard to know what it means since it’s so broad.