Comment by FloorEgg

Comment by FloorEgg 8 hours ago

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It seems that way (re empathy as a luxury) but I don't think it's true.

Empathy builds cooperation and biases towards game theory optimal, which increases chances of survival and furniture thriving.

It doesn't seem like this right now, because all our luxuries are built on momentum enabled by past empathy.

In fact it's the lack of empathy (and curiosity) for others that is causing more suffering and an increasing trend towards lose-lose dynamics, it's just hard to see because the scale across people, time and space is so vast.

Like everything else (reality as vibrations), it seems that global empathy oscillates up and down across generations, with a long-term trend upwards.

So I don't think empathy is a luxury, empathy enables luxury. It's just hard to see past the silver spoon narcissists and collective victim mentality in the current context. I'm optimistic more empathy is in our future, even if not short or medium term.

UncleOxidant 6 hours ago

Well said. There's an odd suspicion of empathy at this point (even some right-wing Christians calling empathy evil which is really odd considering what the founder of their religion taught). There's so much grievance on all sides that's being fueled by various media outlets and algorithms. Grievance says "I've been uniquely wronged". And it leads to giving up on empathy so as to get even.

  • FloorEgg 4 hours ago

    From what I understand about history (which is just enough to know there's a lot I don't know), it seems that collective victim mentality leads to a rise in authoritarianism.

    Also yes a hallmark of a victim mentality is a lack of empathy for others. One believes that no one else cares about them, so why should they care about anyone else?

    It's tragic, but it keeps happening, so maybe it has some bigger picture purpose that's hard to see from an individual's perspective. Doesn't feel great to live through though, and it can get really dark...

  • card_zero 3 hours ago

    The concept comes from early psychology in the orbit of Freud. It was invented in 1903/1909. It's somewhat mystical and somewhat mechanical, an automatic feeling that we're supposed to have. These days we can be told off for lacking this supposéd thing. I don't like it, quite independently.

  • CGMthrowaway 6 hours ago

    I suspect your comment references Allie Stuckey, who wrote a book "Toxic Empathy" and was viral in a video with this idea recently.[1] To the unfamiliar reader, her concept of "toxic empathy" can be boiled down thus-

    -Empathy becomes "toxic" when it encourages a person to affirm sin, validate lies or support destructive policies

    -Truth over feelings. Biblical love does not blindly affirm an individual's feelings or choices if those choices violate moral truth

    For a tangible example of these ideas and their connect to the Gospel (what "the founder" taught), watch the video.

    [1]https://youtu.be/BUjeVodnbzA?t=2978