Comment by haolez

Comment by haolez 7 days ago

6 replies

Did that a decade ago and it saved my marriage as well :D

I'd lived alone before marrying and I did all my chores, but my tolerance for messy stuff until I got to action was way more than my wife's.

asyx 7 days ago

I don’t think people talk about this enough. You can be the poster boy for modern men doing all the chores and taking care of your household all on your own without wife or mother around and a 1950s nuclear family house wife would be proud af.

You are still going to get into arguments if your idea of what „clean and tidy“ means is different from the definition of your partner.

  • ranger_danger 7 days ago

    The biggest thing that changed my life wasn't a purchase, but randomly going down a philosophy rabbit hole on wikipedia one day after looking up different "razors" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_razor).

    One of the first things I learned was that most arguments in life seem to be mainly due to differences in people's definition of subjective terms, and not understanding how to communicate well enough to figure that out and then do something useful about it.

    • high_byte 6 days ago

      these are all great I love that I can now just refer to the razors by name

  • littlestymaar 7 days ago

    And when you have a house cleaner you always have a third party that's responsible for every issue: “that's the house cleaner's fault” (my in-laws have one and I'm pretty sure she's not responsible for a quarter of what gets attributed to her, otherwise she'd have gotten fired long ago)

  • dvfjsdhgfv 7 days ago

    Fully agree. This crucial bit of information should be spelled out to young people as not everybody realizes that (soon enough).

Loic 7 days ago

This! My tolerance was also just above my wife's. We will never go back to not having someone helping us.