I don’t think people talk about this enough. You can be the poster boy for modern men doing all the chores and taking care of your household all on your own without wife or mother around and a 1950s nuclear family house wife would be proud af.
You are still going to get into arguments if your idea of what „clean and tidy“ means is different from the definition of your partner.
And when you have a house cleaner you always have a third party that's responsible for every issue: “that's the house cleaner's fault” (my in-laws have one and I'm pretty sure she's not responsible for a quarter of what gets attributed to her, otherwise she'd have gotten fired long ago)
Fully agree. This crucial bit of information should be spelled out to young people as not everybody realizes that (soon enough).
The biggest thing that changed my life wasn't a purchase, but randomly going down a philosophy rabbit hole on wikipedia one day after looking up different "razors" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_razor).
One of the first things I learned was that most arguments in life seem to be mainly due to differences in people's definition of subjective terms, and not understanding how to communicate well enough to figure that out and then do something useful about it.