Comment by burnte
Comment by burnte 4 days ago
ACE of 8. Only child, single mother with psychiatric problems, absent dad with psychiatric problems, I was nearly killed by him at age 4, homeless twice before I was ten, no extended family to rely on at all. Mom died of Dementia at 65 when I was barely 30, and I took care of her starting when I was 25, giving up a great job in Boston.
I'm a VP of IT in a healthcare company, my third healthcare gig with this particular $12b PE investment firm. I was previously CIO twice at the others, first rising up from IT Director to Executive Director of IT, then CIO. I've been doing IT for 30+ years, and I'm damn good at it. I just cut our phone system expenses by $300k/yr, and I'm in a project to cut our EMR expense by 70% over the next 9 months. I've been a service tech, salesman, programmer, writer, author, datacenter admin, network admin, web developer, dotcom startup "CIO", and more.
I work hard, I care tremendously for my family and my employees, I love where I've managed to get, and I'm not done yet,
Hopefully this is not too tangential, but it's something that's been on my mind a bit recently.
When you had kids (or I guess anyone who is considering having kids), did you ever fear of "passing down" your trauma?
I feel that us tech workers, for all intents and purposes, have "made it," which might best position us in general to overcome and prevent a cycle of trauma to the next generation.