Comment by eastbound
My ACE is 0 (lucky me, my solidarity goes to all of you). Although childhood problems are a grave impediment for life, do you think you come out stronger / more brave than people with no problem?
For example I turned out a workaholic because I couldn’t find how to have success in my affective life. I’m 40, fit, correctly rich, but with a deep unsatisfaction about romantic life. Should I just be brave about it and satisfy myself with being single, or would a brave person deal about it?
The research shows that people come out less strong. Bravery is different, I think that's highly individual. Some people who seek out extreme thrills and adrenaline do so because their brain and nervous system are hardwired for dangerous environments, and it's the only way they can feel normal.
You have to work to find silver linings, opportunity in chaos and vice versa.
To your own issue, bravery would be taking action to address your dissatisfaction. That could mean therapy, or putting yourself out there, but in any case takes the very real bravery of developing self-awareness and honesty so you can identify what you need to do.