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Comment by cultofmetatron 4 days ago

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> When you get bullied in American public schools for being a "nerd" and liking science and math, your country doesn't exactly produce a lot of state-of-the-art STEM professionals.

Its worse than that. when I lived in america, I found that being a software engineer was a dealbreaker when it came to dating most women. Imagine my surprise going to other countries and finding that my chosen profession made me high value proposition to most women.

rune-dev 4 days ago

As an American this does not match my experience at all.

What profession were those women looking for?

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  • ipaddr 4 days ago

    Vets, climate change scientists, doctors, environmental lawyers and athletics. Bonus points for trustfunds and influencers. Women want to make as much as men but also want their partner to make more than them.

    Ever see a female doctor marrying a plumber or construction worker? No they marry Male doctors or lawyer of higher status.

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    • triceratops 4 days ago

      > climate change scientists

      They aren't known for making a lot of money, but I guess "I'm saving the world" is an attractive quality in a mate.

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    • mghackerlady 4 days ago

      Has it ever occurred to you that all those fields have one thing in common? it's empathy. The people in those positions tend to not be the kind to murder you when you say no. Not saying that's true for blue collar men, but the odds are significantly higher. Also doctors and lawyers naturally tend to be around doctors and lawyers, that's hardly the crazy observation you seem to think it is

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      • ipaddr 4 days ago

        Not sure lawyers or climate scientists have more empathy then a middle age man who lives with his mother and cares for her while getting a disability check. But woman prefer the former.

        The answer is woman value status.

        Getting murdered is a hollywood / news fear that rarely happens. People should be worried about deadly things that happen often like cancer or heart attacks. Those are rarely the leading story on the nightly news.

        Programmers are around programmers but the rate they marry another programmer is much less. Even with a gender imbalance women programmers are not seeking male programmers like women doctors.

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      • johnnyanmac 4 days ago

        Sure but that doesn't fit the notion of "being a software engineer is a turnoff".

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  • johntarter 4 days ago

    Bartenders, starving artists, musicians, and athletes?

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    • mghackerlady 4 days ago

      They tend to have personality, which I and most women consider more important than looks or money in my experience

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      • johnnyanmac 4 days ago

        I don't think most professional athletes are lauded for their "personality".

        The other 3, sure. Bartenders need to be good at talking to people to succeed, and artists need to be more eccentric (in a different way from nerds) for their own success.

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    • linksnapzz 4 days ago

      Those are the ones they fool around with; not the ones they marry.

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      • irishcoffee 4 days ago

        Ha yeah. “You’re a really interesting person and a great fuck, but you don’t make enough money for this to be serious”

        the same person, a short while later

        “Why doesn’t anyone love me!?”

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shimman 4 days ago

Tech industry has no problems working with state police forces to imprison woman that get abortions or just generally profit off of making teenage girls depressed.

We should applaud those women for not willing to date people that inflict misery and death upon them.

Maybe the kids are alright after all?

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  • johnnyanmac 4 days ago

    What industry has put actual resistance to these in these times? Plenty of Hollywood has wool over their eyes (though a few are starting to speak out), Sports bent the knee for a full year (especially FIFA), law firms capitulated, hospitals aren't gonna lose their massive profit margins over the health care stuff.

    No industry is coming out of this with a clean bill of health. You as an individual can only choose to not work with the most evil ones.

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    • shimman 4 days ago

      Industries don't, people do. One thing to keep in mind is that corporations have always worked with fascism, they will never resist but workers can. Sabotage takes many forms and one can just look at how Dutch resistance worked against the Nazis.

      You can do many things to sabotage that are nonviolent and also highly effective:

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dutch_resistance

      I'd also be weary with your examples; many hospitals are experiencing effective strikes or law firms that capitulated are struggling finding clients or lost valuable workers.

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      • johnnyanmac 4 days ago

        >I'd also be weary with your examples; many hospitals are experiencing effective strikes or law firms that capitulated are struggling finding clients or lost valuable workers.

        Well yes. That was partially my point. Tech is no different; there's a lot of companies capitulating but I see a huge surge of people speaking out against this. Even people you largely think of as non-partisan previously. I don't think it's fair to pit me into some fascist state because of a company I no longer work for nor perhaps never worked for.

        But tech lacks the unions that other industries have and by its nature is a lot more scattered out. I can't do much more than the ones criticizing the companies with regards to providing a "Dutch resistance"; I don't work for them (heck, I don't even have a full time job as of now) and I've done a lot of culling of what I use over the decade. Probably more than what many have done, but still seemingly insignificant in terms of their bottom line.

        I'm all for collective action, but I'm still looking for that collection. It seems like things need to get as bad as Minneapolis before that collection emerges.

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mghackerlady 4 days ago

I mean, I'm a woman and a software dev.. I suppose I'm not most women though.

Anecdotally men in tech jobs tend to either be the best I've ever met or the worst I've ever met (loosely related to why they're in the field to begin with)

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