Comment by leobg
Some people need the opposite advice: Sometimes an interaction is just a one off event. No need to teach a lesson.
Some people need the opposite advice: Sometimes an interaction is just a one off event. No need to teach a lesson.
Agreed. Naturally, we don't always know which event is a one off ( it used to be easier prior to proliferation of internet and then cell phones ). This likely explains some of the overcorrection I see in this area as a result. I am constantly on guard in public and if someone pulls a cell to record me, I am immediately defensive.
I guess what I am saying is that it is harder to assume it is not the type of event where we don't have to 'condition' people.
And on the flip side, sometimes there's no need to learn a lesson! One of my pet peeves is when people draw huge conclusions about people/things based on way too few interactions (small sample size). Sometimes someone is just having a bad day. But if it happens again and again and again, _then_ you should draw conclusions.