Comment by doganugurlu

I am guessing everyday you are getting a chance to make a friend, but somehow it doesn’t work out.

So let’s invert it: what prevents/kills friendships?

- lying (for whatever reason) - talking too much about yourself - not asking people about their lives - being too private - being too judgmental - not empathizing - e.g. someone tells you about something hard they’re experiencing and you change the subject - not caring to help (also showing you don’t care about others that aren’t in your friend-zone) - not offering help - not being kind - not smiling (more like makes it hard for people to approach you)

Most of us want/need friends. Most of us want/need to talk to others about our lives. Someone just moved to where you live. They need a friend. They will strike a conversation w anyone.

Even people in your past probably wanted to be your friend (either coz they thought you were cool or they just needed a friend) - you can still be friends with them. I’ve become friends w people I met long after meeting them.

Asking someone how they are is not so much about the other person. It’s mostly a social ritual. But if no one is asking you how you are, they might also be intimidated by you.

As Aaron Burr would say: talk less, smile more - jk, do more of both.