Comment by TrackerFF
Of course you will find some professions where work and hobby overlap, but that does not hold for most professions out there. Most of the working world will clock out and mentally check out as soon as the workday is over. Even when only counting professional work.
I have plenty of hobbies that I can't wait until 5 so I can get back to them. I actually get mad when I realize I'm thinking about work outside of work hours. My hobbies all lean toward the creative side making things by hand, but even that sometimes entails using a computer. Just because it involves using a computer does not mean it's work related. For work, I code and build workflows. For hobbies, I dabble at making graphic design that is just a notch or two better than amateur. I've even coded a few hobby projects to build electronic stuff for my photography adventures.
I really feel like you personally might have a problem separating work/life if you're this emotional about it. If you really think that software peeps are the only ones that have this issue, it comes across as you not being able to see the forest through the trees, you might be too scoped in, or any other similar saying you want to use. You're definitely painting with a very broad brush, and it's not coming across well as you're now painting me into something I most certainly am not.