Comment by Noaidi

Comment by Noaidi 3 days ago

There is no such thing as constant suffering and there’s no such thing as constant joy.

Without suffering, we would not know joy and without joy we wouldn’t know suffering. So these are two sides of the same coin, do you see that?

It’s our attachment to ourselves that brings us both joy and suffering. So, I’m sorry, if you want to get rid of suffering you’re going to get rid of joy as well. So I don’t know if dying brings us joy or gets rid of our suffering. We really don’t know what happens to us after we die, do we? You can say that everything just ends, but I’m really not wanting to say that because, well, I’m still alive.

I told my schizophrenic brother why he shouldn’t take his life by suicide. I just asked him if he knew what it was like being dead and if he thought he was certain that being dead would be any better. He literally told me the confusion of that question. Let him to accepting his life as it was. Better the Devil You Know than the one you don’t.

jncfhnb 3 days ago

> Without suffering, we would not know joy and without joy we wouldn’t know suffering. So these are two sides of the same coin, do you see that?

Bullshit argument.

The suffering that many people experience is profound. These people don’t have a more profound experience of joy than those whose lives are chill. And the happy lives of people who haven’t suffered are not better because the sufferers have felt worse.

> I told my schizophrenic brother why he shouldn’t take his life by suicide. I just asked him if he knew what it was like being dead and if he thought he was certain that being dead would be any better. He literally told me the confusion of that question. Let him to accepting his life as it was. Better the Devil You Know than the one you don’t.

“You should suffer because the next part may be even worse suffering” is such a fucked up argument.

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Noaidi 3 days ago

> The suffering that many people experience is profound. These people don’t have a more profound experience of joy than those whose lives are chill. And the happy lives of people who haven’t suffered are not better because the sufferers have felt worse.
Some people have great suffering. Some people have small suffering. But the suffering is the same, and the source is the same. You don’t need great suffering to understand suffering.
A lot of people who have everything they want still suffer, even though nothing is wrong in their life. That is the most interesting kind of suffering to me. But it almost seems like you think these things you’re totally independent or maybe I don’t understand your argument.
> “You should suffer because the next part may be even worse suffering” is such a fucked up argument.
It’s a logical argument. And it kept my brother alive who had no hope and wanted to kill himself, then he has Hope again and he didn’ think about killing himself.
I don’t know what he might’ve done if he read the original article. I might’ve not have had the 20 years with my brother that I did.

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- jncfhnb 2 days ago
  
  Or maybe your brother was guilted into suffering because you injected a greater fear into his life and your faith is fiction. Maybe your faith isn’t fiction but suicide is ok and Jesus tells him it was completely unnecessary to oppose his own reasoning at the pearly gates (or whatever your faith is).
  There is no clear answer that extending life is for the best. Not unlike a painful, fruitless intubation that has no chance of providing quality life-hours.
  Not saying this is true of your brother but a lot of people are content to say “good job team, he will suffer tremendously, but he is alive!” And that’s fucked up.
  
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  Noaidi 2 days ago
  
  I don’t know why you’re bringing up Jesus, I’m not a Christian, and I don’t have faith in Jesus or any religion.
  But are you saying since my brother was suffering he should’ve died by suicide?
  
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  jncfhnb 2 days ago
  
  I’m saying the fact that your brother did not commit suicide doesn’t mean life got better.
  Perhaps it did. I hope it did. Likely a large portion of people who get past suicide and don’t later commit suicide do feel it got better.
  But for a lot of people it doesn’t get better and telling them to keep living is just a cruel self serving choice
  
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