Comment by robrenaud
My biggest insight on my (self diagnosed, high functioning) Autism.
For most people, the golden rule works. Treat other people as you want to be treated, and modulo rare interactions with asshole people, you get along well.
For autistic people interacting with most non-autistic people, you've got to use the diamond rule. Treat other people as they want to be treated.
I love when people just straight up tell me directly that I am wrong because of X and Y. Give me Crocker's rules. This works very poorly in most situations, however. My superpower is offending people by telling them my (readily correctible) perception of the truth.
> Treat other people as you want to be treated
I want to be left alone, and when I do that to others (leave them alone) they think I'm arrogant.