Comment by drakonka

Comment by drakonka 2 days ago

5 replies

I've mentioned to relevant people a couple of times in the past that I generally feel like I am "acting" in most social situations. Like I have an idea as to who/how I need to be in that moment and act accordingly. I'm used to it and it's not really something very conscious in the moment, but if the event lasts a long time it gets kind of draining since you have parallel tracks going - reading the room, predicting what reaction someone expects at any time, issuing that reaction, etc. It's not that I don't enjoy the events, but I can "fill up" on interaction quickly and want to go home early to recharge.

I figured that was just being an introvert.

treis 2 days ago

That's more like social anxiety.

  • drakonka 2 days ago

    Hmm I wouldn't say I feel anxious during this, nor nervous before social situations. People around me would say I'm overall a social and outgoing person. It's more just playing a certain part of yourself that is relevant for the situation. It can be tiring in large doses, but not anxiety-inducing.

    • treis 3 hours ago

      The constant worry about how others perceive you is the anxiety.

      • drakonka 9 minutes ago

        I don't feel worried about how others perceive me in these situations.

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