Comment by JoshTriplett 5 days ago
> If I'm going to the cinema or baseball or any other event... I don't have it in any calendar.
If I don't have it in my calendar, it doesn't happen. I would fail to actually go to the event otherwise.
I never use a calendar; most days, I don't even know what day it is. So, your approach is very interesting to me. Could you please tell me more about what your day looks like on the calendar? How detailed is it, and do you do this even on holidays?
I think you're reading more into this than I meant. For example, today:
[todo/home] clean air filters
[todo/home] take out trash
[todo/home] refill [daughter]'s medication
[work] 9:30 meeting with [person]
[home] 10:30 doctor appt @ 313 river
[home] 11:30 [daughter] dropoff at middle school orientation
[work] 13:45 meeting with [person]
[home] 16:00 [daughter] cello lesson
[todo/work] 16:45 check if zpool is done resilvering
[home] 19:30 ?outdoor contradance @ c?
In my case: I don’t have that many TODOs. For instance, I clean home twice per week, on Mondays and Thursdays. Don’t need to write it down anywhere. I have perhaps 2 or 3 doctor appointments per year (and they are usually within a few weeks in advance, so easy to remember). I don’t have kids (this one could be the game changer, I admit).
Work-wise: sure, I have everything in the work calendar. But i have separate laptops for work and personal life. I never mix them.
If we want to go out for dinner, we just go. Cinema? We just go as well. No appointments. I do exercise at home. We usually travel around 2 times per year (again, not easy to miss)
My wife is 35 weeks pregnant and I go with her to all her OB appts. If we didn't put it on a shared calendar, someone is gonna miss it (though to be honest it'd probably be me, which isn't the end of the world).
We almost never schedule dinners, but we buy cinema tickets ahead of time (or concert tickets, or whatever event). Those ones are hard to remember because the show may be at 6 but doors open at 5 so lots of stuff needs to be coordinated.
It's simple, I don't have things like that that I need to do on any sort of daily basis.
I have a work calendar for work meetings, but never saw a need for personal calendar.
OK sure I put doctor and dentist on my personal calendar, but dentist is 2x a year and doctor is like once a year for a physical. On my personal calendar I might have a dozen things put on it for the whole year. Some upcoming family event, some wedding, etc.
not OP, but the only way for me and my 3 kids (2 high school, 1 junior high) to keep everything straight between appointments, sporting events and practice, work schedules (2 kids have jobs) is to use a shared calendar. We learned early a few things, like 1. don't get cute and put padding because you are worried about being late, it messes with other people 2) don't put reminders, they confuse people 3. if it isnt in the calendar, it isnt happening
We used our calendar for a recent road trip to keep everything sorted. Even on vacations, if you are doing more than chilling at a campsite, it can be very useful for the same reasons.
I'm in between. I do use a calendar for pre-planned personal outings, but more for blocking off dates/times than tracking details. If I hide work meetings, pretty much my entire calendar is just a bunch of events generically named "Balls" with no other information. Occasionally I'll use someone's name or the name of a travel destination.
I doubt only ADHD people are aided by this. Lots of people are just busy nowadays juggling home, work, kids, friends, hobbies, errands, etc.
I'm calendar-driven to such an extent that I joke that all it would take to murder me would be to insert "jump off a cliff" in my calendar.