Comment by zevon

Comment by zevon 3 days ago

8 replies

As others have indicated: I think many people who show others "incredible kindness and inspiration" would value you doing the same for others more than anything you could probably do for them. However, simply telling them "you were incredibly kind to me and you are a big reason for me trying to be kind to others" might just make their day.

simonw 3 days ago

100% this. If I run into someone and they say "15 years ago you helped me out with X, and as a result these other great things happened" it will literally make my week.

  • californical 3 days ago

    Somebody reached out to me 5 years ago to tell me that a small gesture in high school made a big difference in their life.

    We’re both into our 30s now, and I never knew her very well, and hadn’t even seen (or talked to) her since I’d graduated. But I did remember the gesture - and even these 5 years later it still makes me happy to remember her thanking me! Like, it didn’t feel like I was doing anything much at all at the time, and I probably would’ve never even thought about it again.

  • xwowsersx 3 days ago

    Your week?! This would brighten my entire month, perhaps even my year!

DougN7 3 days ago

This. And stay in contact over the years. Everyone needs more friends, and some people really need them. That is worth far more than almost anything you could give/buy.

andrepd 3 days ago

My partner did that, sending thank-you emails to teachers and mentors that helped shape her path. The responses have been very positive.

commandersaki 3 days ago

I unfortunately did this to two people that were instrumental in my life, except during a manic episode, and while I sprinkled some good stuff in there, I also said some cringe things that I'm really embarrassed about. Rather than try and apologise many years later, I've just let it hang, and hope they appreciated the good things I said and not the odd out of place manic-inspired things.

  • zevon 3 days ago

    Hard to speculate, but again, I would assume that many people who show others "incredible kindness and inspiration" accept neurodiversity instead of expecting some sort of apology for it (and might even be willing to talk about such things).

thinkindie 3 days ago

This - and probably asking if they know other people that might benefit of your new experience/skills. If they probably helped you, they are still helping someone else too.