Comment by pixl97

Comment by pixl97 7 days ago

I'm going to assume you're a man and probably have a little less experience here than the average woman does.

This said, I am a man too, but a large part of my career was supporting lawyers and court systems, including family court systems.

Choosing the wrong partner is one of the biggest risks you take in your life, especially for a woman. This is one of those things that can easily lead to you being bankrupt with nothing. This can lead to you being abused or raped. You can end up with a child that you did not want to have. You can end up dead.

With states pushing to revoke things like no fault divorce (and women being the primary initiators of divorce) it's not hard see the traps women lived in the past coming back.

Then add the strongly religious connotations marriage has in the US and you quickly see why this is a rollercoaster that emotions and politics are not going to be removed from.

diggan 6 days ago

> With states pushing to revoke things like no fault divorce [...] Then add the strongly religious connotations marriage has in the US

Yeah, sorry about that. My comment kind of assumed living in a modern western country where women still have choice and religion doesn't run the country, but of course many here are in the US, so should have been a bit more specific.

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zer8k 6 days ago

> Choosing the wrong partner is one of the biggest risks you take in your life, especially for a woman. This is one of those things that can easily lead to you being bankrupt with nothing. This can lead to you being abused or raped. You can end up with a child that you did not want to have. You can end up dead.

Meanwhile FOMO has resulted in hypergamy. Long-term relationships have been on the decline because availability has resulted in situationships with the top 10% of men has become the norm. Your statement is inconsistent with a mountain of data coming from dating apps and is an appeal to emotion.

This is consistent with

> and probably have a little less experience here than the average woman does.

Which you use to insult OP's experience and inject your own mind-melting BS as fact.

Everything you state has a counter-argument for men that is equally valid. An alleged man would know this:

1. False accusation of abuse or rape - have an argument a little too loud and the neighbors call the police who is going to jail? It's the man, regardless of fault.

2. You can get baby trapped because our "progressive" society doesn't believe in the right a man should have to "abort".

3. Family courts are slanted 80/20 towards women. It's almost universally the man who loses rights to a child and gains a subsequent extra house payment in child support. Go hang out at bars and homeless shelters and figure out how many of them have been bankrupted.

4. Divorce court, despite income disparity all but disappearing, still leans heavily in favor of women.

5. There are nearly no programs for abused men, men who are going through divorce, men who got their children taken away, men who are suffering under the boot of child support/alimony, etc. In fact, you can go to jail for not paying these! Most homeless shelters will remove a man from a bed to provide one for a woman, especially if she has a child. How is this fair?

The man takes the highest possible risk entering a relationship all other things being equal.

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