Comment by monophonica

My first thought was that obviously he was a smoker.

I loved cigarettes. I haven't smoked in almost 15 years and I might say I still love cigarettes. There really is no replacement for the feeling of being a smoker, waking up in the morning and drinking coffee with a cigarette as the sun comes up. That is a large part of what makes the addiction so bad.

I say this even with the benefit of knowing how horrible they are for health. It is why I quit eventually.

It is really hard to be objective about your partner when you are in love. A highly abusive partner at that.

I suspect the only thing stronger in humans than love is denial. The combination can be especially deluding.