Comment by maeil

Comment by maeil a day ago

>But, when I go to work, things change. Not only people around me don't care, they very much want everyone to not care, because that would show them in a bad light.

In your country this starts way back in middle school, where this phenomenon is worse than I've seen in any other place. It would be incredibly surprising if this suddenly changed in the workplace when it's all people have ever known.

As long as the culture doesn't change at that age, there's no hope for changing it later in life.

crabbone a day ago

That's unsettling :( My son is in second grade now, so I haven't been exposed to the middle school realities yet. Thanks for the warning!

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maeil a day ago

https://blogs.transparent.com/dutch/untranslatable-dutch-wor...
There's a large amount of peer pressure to idolize scraping by, and against actually doing your best and putting in effort. While this exists in certain other places too (see classic "jock vs nerd" Hollywood stereotypes), nowhere is it as widespread. Moreso than the intensity - which isn't particularly severe, in the sense that e.g. serious bullying isn't more common than in compare countries - it's how institutional it is that sets it apart, even among a lot of kids who have the potential to do very well and go places if they'd put in a little effort.
Of course YMMV and these things have a large degree of local variance, but there's a reason the linked term exists as a cultural phenemonon there.

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