Comment by willcipriano

I read your other comment. It seems you went through a difficult situation. I'm genuinely sorry that happened to you.

I hard disagree on treatment for BPD. It's known to be treatable, but treatment options are different than other mental illnesses.

And please don't share that link. It is just doing more harm to people with BPD. I know because I witnessed first hand how hurt and hopeless my SO was on finding that subreddit. In the midst of trying to diagnose themself on the path to finding a working treatment, the found that subreddit (or a similar one) that told them they are monsters. I don't think its a helpful message to go out to the world.

I understand it if people go on there to find support after a bad situation like yours happened to them. I don't blame you or anyone. But I implore you to find some compassion, not for the person you were with, but for those who you've never met, who haven't done anything wrong, and who still have the chance to have a good life.

There is variety in people's conditions and personalities. I don't think it is fair to judge everyone just by their label.

2 more small things:

1. I couldn't care less if my SO found someone else local. In fact I hope they do, so the emotional burden can be spread out over more people.

2. The person you are asking to read "real life accounts" is married to someone with BPD, they are not just an academic. They know their stuff.