Comment by willcipriano 7 days ago
I'm in the same situation. She refuses any treatment.
I learned too late that mental illness may be a reason but it's never an excuse for behavior.
Make sure you keep your cup (and your childrens if applicable) full before you do anything to fill hers. Otherwise you will wake up one day miserable, fat and poor.
Lucky I only ate the blue pills for ten so I'm 35 and have a chance to turn my life around.
The advice for men that you often see essentially boils down to, "work harder to make her happy" that doesn't work for mental illness, in my case it made her more entitled, adulterous and rude.
I need to save up money to defend myself against her lies, document her mental illness so I can prove to the court she isn't a fit mother and get me and my kid out of here. It's a long road but I'll get there eventually.
I hope you get there as well.
I am so sorry. I see you. My wife is bipolar, HSP, ADHD… it’s called severe mental illness for a reason.
I was eating blue pills for 20 years. I finally took the red pill and realized it wasn’t going to change, we weren’t going to find a magic cocktail, she isn’t going to find stability. Now I am stuck between a rock and a hard place with no option c. It is miserable.
The airlines have it right, ‘Put on your mask first.’ If you are hypoxic , you can’t help anyone. Care giving is all about self care.