Comment by VWWHFSfQ

Comment by VWWHFSfQ 7 days ago

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> 4. Be gentle with yourself

> It’s common to experience a wide range of emotions as a caregiver. You might feel frustrated, sad, resentful, joyful—all in the same day or even in the same hour! These feelings are a normal part of the caregiving experience, and it’s okay to express them.

I think this one is the most important and it extends to everyone, not just people in a caregiving role.

Be able to forgive yourself. Past mistakes, things you said, or did, or didn't do. All the the showerthoughts that make you cringe up. Don't be so hard on yourself. Forgive.

olyjohn 7 days ago

It's especially true if you're taking care of a dying my family member. They will pass and then suddenly you have time to remember all the things you did wrong, or said out of exhaustion and frustration, and you won't be able to apologize. Truth is none of those things matter. What matters most is you did the best you can for them and that you were just there for them.

  • rramadass 7 days ago

    > It's especially true if you're taking care of a dying my family member. They will pass and then suddenly you have time to remember all the things you did wrong, or said out of exhaustion and frustration, and you won't be able to apologize.

    This is so true that it can only be known by experience. And you will carry the mental burden (unavoidable) for the rest of your life, though with the passage of time it does get easier.