Comment by krisoft

Comment by krisoft 9 days ago

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The best ever advice I received from my dad, maybe the only advice he ever gave me, was exactly what you are writing here.

It was a few days before my first day at elementary school. He told me that teachers very quickly put people into little boxes. “The good students” vs the “troublemakers”. If you end up in the first basically no matter what you do they will see your output in a more positive light. They will forgive your mistakes as “momentary lapses”. If you are in the second category no matter what you do they will see your work in a negative light. If you do well that will be because you got lucky, or because you cheated. Or so they will think. And how they feel about you will affect your grades, your everyday, and your opportunities. And this is completely and utterly unfair, but this is how it is. You can’t change it, but you can learn to use it to your advantage.

So i put in some extra effort to the first few days of elementary school and coasting on that ever since. ;)

Later as i got older i learned that managers work the same way. Obviously it doesn’t mean that one can completely neglect the actual work, but one’s manager’s (and manager’s manager’s) perception is paramount.

bravura 9 days ago

"Give a man a reputation as an early riser and he can sleep 'til noon." - Mark Twin

irjustin 9 days ago

100% agreed. This is very much human nature and impossible to avoid. I do this; you do this. We meet someone and very rapidly bucket them into whatever categories we've built over the years. When you're younger, it takes longer because those buckets aren't as well defined. But once I've played someone, it's very hard for them to move into another.

My favorite clip that encapsulates this thread is from Suits[0]. Mike hates it, but first impressions matter.

[0] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjQOu4cVm8c

  • pmarreck 9 days ago

    ha, haven’t been much of a TV show watcher in years (I play games for entertainment) and never heard of this show (nor did I know that Meghan Markle was a TV actress before now, LOL… also, damn she was fine in 2011!) but this one looks entertaining, especially because I live 40 minutes from NYC… Anyway, insightful clip!

Moru 9 days ago

Yes, most people get to this insight and gives it back to their kids so they can get a head start in life. And for those that don't, there are enough movies for the kids/youth showing exactly how it works.

beryilma 8 days ago

Along the same lines, if you are a bad student for whatever reason, the best thing you can do to improve your grades without any extra work is to ask questions during class and talk to your teacher before/after class. I guarantee results...