Comment by prewett
Great, so in addition to being guilted into tipping for ordinary, expected service so not to threaten the possible "tenuous" economic circumstances of servers, now I get guilted if I have an expectation of a professional environment when I contract a personal-taxi from a large personal-taxi dispatcher. I'm not a social service dispensary, I'm a customer. I'm paying for a service, and I'm allowed to have certain expectations for the service.
I don't think anyone is saying you can't not tip or you can't have expectations.
My problem with it is when people do these things but then maintain they're not directly, and tangibly, economically harming a lower wage person. You are, there's no way around it. It's perfectly fine to be okay with that outcome. IMO, it's not fine to pretend that outcome doesn't exist.