Comment by theGnuMe

>My biggest concern with my quality of life is I don’t feel safe (don’t ask).

Hypervigilance is a thing... your nervous system is highly tuned to identify threats. It raises your baseline stress levels. Another way to do this is to create a threat matrix and estimate the probabilities of the event happening and what you would do in response. This is basically retraining your system by taking executive control.

You might look into some therapy for this, some say EMDR can be helpful.