Comment by pdonis
> the physical 3d analogous projection would be two slightly overlapping 3d-venn diagram funnels conjoining at an "indefinitely" (asymptotically smaller) small space-time minkowski manifold.
I'm not sure what you mean by this, but it doesn't seem to correspond to any actual physical model that I'm aware of.
both objects have a space cone that is overlapping - since they can observe each other, but also have a small bit they xor can observe, since they are a spatialtime distance apart.
regardless, once they are inside the event horizon, their spacetime ends in a "singularity" - that only they experience, since everyone else just saw an ever-slowing couple of observers that never quite reached the event horizon (to the outside observer, who would eventually be either iron or protons, depending if God had decided if they protons should decay or not yet)
i was just pointing out cone versus cylinder, since the black holes' effect is polynomial af