Comment by ativzzz

I feel similarly. I've noticed nearly every form of self-help material I've read starts out with some trauma the author overcame. Anectodal evidence ofc.

I feel like there needs to be something that "kick starts" you to push yourself. I had a cushy, comfortable childhood that probably needed a bit more discomfort. My parents grew up in more challenging environments and did their best to not pass that on, maybe they did too good of a job. They have significantly stronger work ethic than I do.

Yea there's a lot of people with high trauma who don't make it (like some other posters have said) - we see the survivorship bias. But sometimes I wish I had a bit more kick in the ass younger because now I'm unable to do so to myself as an adult. Artificial trauma maybe suffices - like why is hazing for group bonding still a thing anywhere? Maybe college kids know what they're doing, and the occasional death is just the price we have to pay

Maybe I'm just ranting and none of this would help. I'm average because I'm lazy and it's hard to accept