I have an ACE score of 6. I vastly benefit from trauma therapy: EMDR, IoPT (constellations), hypnotherapy, somatic experiencing, nonviolent communication. It helped me get out of most of my previous addictions, and I do not need to take any medication. I consider myself to be quite happy, and was able to build secure attachments and bonds.
I think it's really a matter of personal preference, experience and circumstance. For a successful therapy and healing, one needs three components: stabilization/resource building (people, things, locations), safety (no or at least reduced contact with abusers; typically there is no conscious awareness of ongoing and continued abuse and boundary violations!), and then, finally, confrontation with past trauma. The three areas need different tools and all need to be balanced with each other.
Often people get stuck in one of these areas; sometimes it may be out of their control. Without careful attention to all three areas, this then translates into a negative reenforcement of "This doesn't work", "I cannot be healed", "It's all my fault", "I'm just too much for anyone", "I'm never going to be good enough", etc.
There is a lot of pressure to try to get out of the trauma and the reenactment fast; patience is an unaffordable luxury for someone suffering and embedded in ongoing violence. If one pushes too fast for confrontation without safety or sufficient resources, they are going to pull stuff up and project it on the present experience, with a high probability of further retraumatization and confirmation of their own and other's "evilness".
The methods I mentioned are my favorites. They all play an important role in my own healing. There are many more.
Which was most helpful? Or if you can't pick one then what were the best two?